Teaching Children Manners

How to teach your child etiquette and to act liketheir own list (if they can read) or have them help
a prince or princess in public instead of a holyyou pick out items you need.  Next on our list is
terror. Normal 0apples, which apples do you want?  Then have
If your child doesn't act like a prince or a princessthem get a bag, fill it up, and put it in the cart. 
at times when you need her to behave, try usingYou would then say, next will you help me find
a few simple parenting techniques to help yourthe aisle that has birthday cakes?  After
child learn positive behavior patterns.shopping, let your kids unload the cart and help
 bag the groceries so they are not asking for the
Positive behavior is learned.  Make sure youcandies that grace the sides of the checkout line.
model the way you want your child to act.  As 
an example, if you want her to be quiet (talking inRestaurants are also a dreaded outing for parents
whisper voices instead of yelling voices) during awith young kids.  Usually kids act out due to
movie at the theatre, talk to her before handboredom.  A child's attention span is extremely
that when we talk loudly or chatter during ashort.  Again, set clear expectations before
movie, other people can't hear and it is annoyingarriving at the restaurant.  Model correct behavior
to them to listen to children talking while theyourself and tell them what their "hero" or
characters in the movie are also talking.  Mommy"princess" would do in a like situation.  Explain that
and Daddy are not going to talk during the moviethey are expected to act as a princess would at
and we expect you not to either.  Then stick tothe restaurant.  Bring quiet and activities for
it!  You could also talk about one of their rolethem to occupy their time and involve them in
models and how they would behave.  Foryour conversations so they don't get bored.  If
example, Princess Cinderella talks in her quietthey have bad manners or cry out and act up,
voice when she is out in public.take them out of the environment.  Go out and
 have them sit in a time-out for one minute per
Reward positive behavior and discourage negativeyear old they are.  When they calm, tell them
behavior.  For example, have an incentive, like awhat you expect and take them back in.  It will
small gift, for good behavior.  If your little girlonly take a couple times for them to learn.  Most
talks during the movie, she does not get thekids will be so shocked and embarrassed that you
incentive.  If she is quiet for the first 30 minutes,actually took them out of the environment, when
she gets to her very own popcorn.  After shethey get back, they will not want to act up
eats the popcorn, if she speaks in whispers foragain.  For good behavior, you will want to
the next 30 minutes, she gets a small toy afterreward them immediately with descriptive positive
the movie, etc.  Set clear expectations beforepraise and affection.  Say something like, "You
hand and then stick to what you say.  If sheare being so good at the restaurant!  You didn't
doesn't "earn" her prize, don't give it to her. even cry and scream once.  We are so proud of
Make sure you have set realistic goals for her toyou and know that we can take you to do special
reach so she can succeed and learn that goodthings in the future because you are acting so
choices lead to positive reinforcement.grown up!"
  
Many parents have a hard time taking their youngAs you can see, a few simple techniques can help
children to the grocery store.  Kids get bored,transform negative behavior into positive behavior
wander off, and get in trouble.  A great way toin your children.
keep them occupied and engaged is to give them