Learning my Child's Way

Home schooling. What is it? What does it mean toand I wouldn't get interrupted, gathered the
you? How do you home school? These were justmaterials, and sat down to teach her about
some of the questions I had when we startedmoney. ( Experienced home learning parents are
thinking about home schooling our children.probably having a great laugh at this point. )
While our daughter was a baby, I started readingWe started to trace the coins on paper to show
articles in the paper about the local schools. Ourhow five pennies make a nickel, and two nickels
school district was in financial trouble. They weremake a dime. Much to my surprise, Katherine was
cutting services and staff over and over again.not enjoying herself. She refused to count the
The elementary schools were eliminating librarians,number of pennies with me, wouldn't help trace
day time janitors, band, and the parents werecircles, and became generally difficult. Finally I was
fund raising for a crossing guard. That's when Iso annoyed I just put everything away. She
realized that the local public school would not became up and hugged me and said 'I still love you
anything like the school I went to.Mommy'. My heart melted, but the doubts in my
Our first step was checking out the private schoolabilities remained.
options. There are three Montessori schools withinA week latter, Katherine was watching TV and
a 20 minute drive, a variety of Christian schools,told me which three shows which shows were
and a Waldorf school about 45 minutes away. Aslisted on the screen. She had never even watched
I went and sat in classrooms, I realized that Ione of the shows. I sat in stunned silence. She
didn't want my daughter spending most of herwas right. Was it a good guess? Had she
childhood in those classrooms. Nothing seemed tomemorized them or could she read? I hadn't
fit what I saw as her needs for education.planned to 'teach' her how to read until she was 7
It didn't take me long to realize that home learningor 8. We hadn't even started any language
could be the best choice for Katherine. She is anlessons. What was going on? This event was not
intelligent child who does things in her own time.part of the plans I had been making for her home
She didn't start talking until she was about 2.5schooling education.
years old. About a year latter, we went through aTruthfully, I don't think she could read that day,
speech assessment to find out if there were anybut I'm not certain about that statement. She is
long term problems. She could say all of thequite capable of selectively answering our
sounds of a 2 year old, less than half of thequestions when it suits her. We knew she could
sounds of three and four year olds and almost allsing the alphabet song, and recognize some
the sounds of five and six year olds! The finalletters. I have been able to discover that she
assessment was that her speech developmentknows what all the letters look like, and can
did not fit the norm, but was OK. What if theycorrectly tell us which letter starts most words
hadn't tested her for the more advanced sounds?('My grandmother's name is Margery, what letter
The results would have been very different.does Margery start with?"), even when she has
This test echoed the developmental patterns wenever seen or heard the word before.
had seen with Katherine from the beginning. AnyMy husband and I have talked about this situation
time I tried to compare her to a chart, she wasa few times. When she choses to answer our
fine at the levels below, had some of the skills atquestions, we find out she knows way more than
her current level, but quite a few from the leveleither one of us thought she did. She has
above. While I think she might like all the kids incorrectly found a show she would like to watch
the classroom, I am afraid that she will be labelledlisted in the TV Guide, much to my amazement
as 'below average' because she doesn't fit theirsince the look of the words in the TV Guide is
standard tests. I do not want her public schools.very different from the logo with the show's
Home learning was no longer a choice, but a veryname on TV. It's not just image recognition. We
firm decision.don't know where or how she has learned these
Fortunately, we live in a popular home learningskills.
area with some of the best legislation for homeWhat has become clear is that Katherine doesn't
learners in Canada. I had never planned to homeneed me to 'teach' her or have a master plan for
school, and wasn't quite sure what it meant. I didher education. I do have to provide a good
know people whose children learned at home, andlearning environment, answer her questions, help
it seemed to work for their families. I subscribedwhen she asks, and watch her learn.
to one of the two local newsletters and startedI knew she would learn to walk, talk, and all those
listening to conversations about learning at home.hundreds of other things babies are suppose to
I liked what I read, saw and thought about. Mostlearn in their first few years. There is no reason
of my remaining doubts were about me as ato create an artificial line between life learning and
teacher. I love my children, our 6 year-oldacademic learning. For me, that was one of the
daughter Katherine, now has a 3 year-old brotherreasons I thought home learning was great. Yet I
Duncan. I feel priveledged to be spending theirstill fell into the trap of trying to artificially set-up a
childhoods with them. However I do get impatient,teaching situation. No wonder Katherine wanted
need my own space some times, and don't havenothing to do with my planned lesson.
a teaching background. Could we home learn? WeI have to remember to trust her. She loves
would try and see what happened.learning in her own way, at her own pace. Now if
An experienced home learning parent had told meI can just stay out of her way, she will to a great
about a great activity they did tracing coins andjob all by herself. I am looking forward to having a
learning about money. Although Katherine waswonderful time watching her grow and learn in the
only 4y at the time, she loved coins and itcoming years. I just hope I can remember what I
sounded perfect for us. I picked a time when shelearned from our first home lesson.