Help! How Can I Convince My Husband to Let Me Home School the Kids?

I always knew I wanted to home school ourchildren, and why I believed our son would do
children. When I was in high school, I babysat forbetter in a home environment.
a home schooling family, and they had suchVolunteering in a classroom isn't always possible,
exciting projects going on. Later, when I wasbut if you can, I recommend it. If you're thinking
student teaching in university, I discovered aof home schooling, watching how your child
more important reason to home school. It simplyfunctions in a classroom can help prepare you for
wasn't possible to meet every child's needs in awhat's ahead. And, if you're ultimately not able to
classroom setting.educate your children at home, you're building
My husband, however, took some convincing. Heimportant relationships with your children's
hadn't had any exposure to home schoolingteachers and showing your children how much
families, and thought teaching our two kids atyou value their education.
home would put too much responsibility on me.3. Explain to your husband why you want to
We ended up putting our eldest child in a publichome school. Does your husband know why you
school, but three years later, he was so unhappy,want to home school? Or does he think your
we were ready to try anything. We took him anddesire is a passing whim? Present your reasons
his younger sister out of public school and triedand try to explain what's on your mind.
schooling at home instead. It's made such aThis is where I found volunteering in my son's
positive difference in our lives, we plan to educateclassroom so helpful. I could explain to my
both our children at home all the way through highhusband what I observed in the classroom, and
school.how home schooling could make a difference in
After home schooling for five years, my husbandour son's learning.
has become one of the strongest advocates for4. Explore other educational options. No matter
home education I know. In fact, when I feelhow much you want to home school, it's
frustrated and suggest that we consider publicimportant to remember that this approach to
school again, he completely shuts me down. Heeducation is not for everyone. I've met several
sees what a difference this way of life has mademoms who insisted on home schooling their
in the lives of our children and our family.children, and a year later, realized it was the
Now, none of this is to say that I believe publicwrong choice for their family.
education is not as good as home schooling.Home schooling is hard. Being unhappy with your
Teaching your children at home is not the answercurrent schooling arrangement is not a good
for everyone. However, home schooling is theenough reason to home school. Explore your
right choice for my family.other options as well before deciding home
If you believe home schooling is the right choiceschooling is the only alternative that will work for
for your family too, but your husband doesn'tyou.
agree, there is no magic pill that can make himConsider private schools, online schools, or maybe
change his mind. I do, though, have someeven an after school tutoring program. If your
suggestions that may help.husband doesn't agree to home school, perhaps
1. Pray. One of my favorite Christian authors,he'll be more open to one of these options.
Stormie Omartian, says in her book, Power of a5. Find current research about home schooling.
Praying Wife, that before talking to your husbandGather facts about home schooling to show your
about anything, you should talk to God about yourhusband. Not to shove in his face and prove your
husband.point, but so you can be prepared when he does
If you believe that God wants you to homeask questions.
school, spend time with God and ask Him toFind out how local home schooled students
reveal that to your husband as well.perform on standardized tests; learn if they're
2. Get involved in your child's school right now. Iadmitted to your city's university (usually they
had always been involved in our children'sare); look for groups you can join to meet other
education, but when our son's problems becamehome schooling families, and for your children to
more serious, I volunteered in his classroommake home schooled friends. Then, when your
every week. I got along well with his teacher, andhusband does ask questions about home
she was concerned about him too, so thisschooling, you'll have all the answers you need at
arrangement worked very well.hand.
I was able to see the classroom environmentNone of these suggestions will guarantee your
first-hand, and see how my son's behaviorhusband will change his mind about home schooling.
compared to the other students. Because I wasBut they will help you communicate with your
in the classroom so frequently, I was able tohusband about both your desires for your
explain to my husband what was happening, andchildren's education, and help you make educational
where the problems lay. This helped himchoices that will work for your entire family.
understand my desire to home school our