Creating the right atmosphere for homeschooling

There is more to atmosphere than white ruffledMason's philosophy of education it is an excellent
curtains fluttering in a sunny breeze and redthing to have an opinion of your own, provided
geraniums on the window sill. These cozy thingsyou are not bent on sticking to it. We preserve
do make for a pleasant setting in a home, butthe natural candor of children by listening with a
they are only the beginning. It is the life-supportingpatient sympathetic hear, and we can expect
atmosphere of home working in a child's life thatattentive listening from children if we do not scold
is so important in his education. Atmosphere isthem. A helpful book to read, for those desiring
one of only a few instruments the educator hasgentle encouragement to improve the
at her disposal to encourage the work of thinkingatmosphere of their homes, is Henry Clay
in the student and to stimulate healthy growth ofTrumbull's book Hints on Child Training
the whole child.(conveniently sold on page 59 of this magazine). I
Ideas Children absorb ideas from the "thoughtparticularly like this paragraph from the chapter on
environment" we provide for them. Ideas aresympathy: A parent loses his opportunity for
food for the mind. A child's mind automaticallygood to his child, if he fails to have sympathy
grows as he considers ideas. What is an idea?with this child in that child's weakness and follies
Charlotte Mason tells us: An idea may exist in aand misdoings. It is in every child's nature to long
clear, distinct, definite form as that of a circle infor sympathy at the point where he needs it
the mind of a geometrician or it may be a meremost; and when he has done wrong, or has
instinct, a vague [association] towards something .indulged evil thoughts, or is feeling the force of
. . like the impulse which fills the young poet's eyestemptation, he is glad to turn to some one
with tears, though he knows not why. To excitestronger and better than himself, and make
this relationship or appetite toward things lovely,confession of his faults and failures. If as he
honest, and of good report is the earliest andcomes to his parents at such a time, he is met
most important ministry of the educator.with manifest sympathy, he is drawn to his
How are we to impart ideas to our children? Ideasparents with new confidence and new trust.
are of spiritual origin and God has made us spiritualLet Home Have the Greater Influence As children
people.grow older, they may become more and more
Therefore, ideas are passed on from person tofascinated with the world.
person - through conversation or books writtenWhen they are very young they may fill their
by those who love their subject matter. Charlottepockets with rocks, acorns, pinecones, shells or
urges us to give children a regular feeding of ideasfeathers. When they are older they will more
through sweeping tales of history, wonderfulconsciously collect impressions of the ways and
inventions and discoveries in science, lives of greathappenings of the people around them. The pull of
men and women, and stories that radiate thethis curiosity seems to be felt most strongly in
moral life; as well as paintings, plays, Psalms,the teen years. We grown-ups may forget what
poems, and symphonies.once enticed us, since our fascination with the
Wanted - Homemaker Our children will pick upworld has faded. The influence of the world over
many ideas from the atmosphere we provide inour children really depends on what standards we
the home. What do we need to ensure that thisset at home - the standards by which the children
atmosphere inspires them on to the kinds ofare accustomed to measure things. God's World
things we want them to learn? First, someonepublications (800-951-5437) supply children with
loving needs to be home to make it home.knowledge of current events while helping to
We are living in a career-minded, materialistictemper the influence of the world by presenting
generation that depreciates the role of a mother.the news in the light of a Christian worldview.
But the mother is the irreplaceable foundation ofMy family has benefited by knowing other
a home.homeschooling families because they are close
During World War II, when America wasfamilies. A respect for parents, the satisfaction of
imprisoning Japanese families in camps, a reporterlearning together, a fondness for simple pleasures,
stepped up to a little Japanese-American girlgood humor amidst hard work, sympathy in
waiting at a train platform. "How does it feel to besorrow, the joy of worshipping together - these
without a home," the reporter asked.are a few consequences of the atmosphere of a
"Oh," replied the little girl, "we have a home, weclose family. Such homes give the gift of
just don't have a house to put it in." Protectingunworldliness.
Wings A Christian home provides the protectingManners - More Than Meets the Eye In the
wings of a religious atmosphere. A catechism iseighteenth century, etiquette was expected from
essential teaching for children to understand whatall persons of "good breeding." One needs only to
and why one believes; but as absolutelyread one of Jane Austen's delightful novels to
necessary as such teaching is, it will not in itselfbecome acquainted with the mannerly characters
create a religious atmosphere. In an article onof her time. Today, however, any form of
atmosphere in Charlotte's original magazine, theetiquette seems to belong only to these "prim
writer said, The test will be whether religion is theand proper" Victorians. You will find an almost
center of our life - our joy of our joy, theuniversal lack of manners everywhere by people
consolation of our sorrow, the one eminentlywho are supposedly "educated." Perhaps today
important thing for which all others have to givethe necessity to use manners is seen as infringing
way; whether we view the things of daily lifeon the "freedom to express oneself" without
primarily with reference to it, and whether all elseconstraint.
is felt to be relatively devoid of interest and value.Are manners the hollow tactfulness some use on
. . . As love and faith are the two wings of thethe selling floor - a kind of manipulating flattery?
Divine, so they are of natural religion, and it isNo, our children can have worthier reasons for
their strong protecting wings that our childrenexhibiting manners. Good manners can be another
must ever feel around them.term for duty, for righteousness, for morality.
I like what Charles Spurgeon said about theTrue politeness simply consists in treating others
religious atmosphere of home: "When home isjust as you like to be treated yourself. This polite
ruled according to God's word, angels might betreatment comes from direct teaching, but also
asked to stay with us, and they would not findresults from a caring home atmosphere where a
themselves out of their element." Wow, isn't thischild will acquire a servant's heart like that of our
a high ideal? Don't be discouraged, dear parent,Savior's.
with the heavenly command, "Be ye perfect." WeMore to Education than Atmosphere But we
may not reach our ideals but it is our fervent,would have a one-sided view of education if we
faithful reaching towards them that mattersdetermined education to be an atmosphere only,
greatly.just as we would if we viewed education as only
Open Communication Another essential ingredientthat of gaining skills in the three Rs. In my next
in the home atmosphere is intimatearticle we will look at that other powerful
communication. By this I mean the freedom toinstrument of the educator - the formation or
express opinions in an atmosphere in which"discipline" of habits.
discussion is open and far-reaching. In Charlotte